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I want to spend my life with him — but can’t we keep our money separate?

Dr. Andrea advises a reader who wonders if a healthy marriage requires a joint banking account, and another reader who wants her boyfriend to get off her back about her therapy.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJanuary 31, 2017relationships, marriage, money, conflict, engagement, therapy, emotional health, eating

6 Lies You Must Stop Telling Yourself

The stories that give us short-term comfort may also keep us from living our best lives.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorJanuary 25, 2017emotional health, stress, therapy, Psychology Today

My two grown children hate each other with a passion I’ve never seen

Dr. Andrea helps a brokenhearted parent of two warring siblings, and advises a reader who's tired of feeling hurt and jealous over friends' gatherings.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJanuary 24, 2017family, parenting, conflict, relationships, friendship, jealousy

My fiancee wants my sister and her partner to cool it at our wedding, to appease her anti-gay family

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who doesn't feel right asking his sister to conceal her love, and another reader who finds the guilt from cheating impossible to overcome.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJanuary 17, 2017weddings, sexuality, family, infidelity, relationships, conflict

5 Ways to Stop Catastrophizing

When all feels lost, try these techniques.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorJanuary 11, 2017emotional health, Psychology Today, stress, politics, self-help

My husband constantly chats with Russian women online. Why isn’t he that intimate with me?

Dr. Andrea advises a reader who wants to break her husband's addiction, and also helps a student whose first choice for college might upset a good friend.

He wants a second child. I don’t. This isn’t going to end well for one of us.

Dr. Andrea helps a woman who isn't up for the challenge of another kid, despite her husband's wishes, and a reader wondering whether those exes were just interested in networking.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJanuary 3, 2017Baggage Check, marriage, parenthood, relationships, conflict, careers

My husband is a nightmare until he has his coffee — and then he gets even worse

Dr. Andrea helps a reader caught in a caffeinated crossfire, and advises a woman whose sister is stealing all the credit for their mother's big birthday bash.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorDecember 27, 2016Baggage Check, addiction, marriage, conflict, family

Life with the kids, the house and my job is overwhelming me. How can I ever catch my breath?

Dr. Andrea offers advice to a mother with too much on her plate, and to another reader who fears her reclusive father is suffering from depression.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorDecember 20, 2016Baggage Check, marriage, stress, parenthood, workplace, career, depression, family

My strict parents are still controlling my life — even when they’re not

Dr. Andrea helps a reader whose parents have quite a grip, and another reader who wonders whether her estranged husband's drug problems should preclude him from seeing their young daughter.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorDecember 13, 2016family, relationships, parenthood, addiction, conflict, Baggage Check

Is my on-again, off-again relationship better than nothing at all?

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who isn't sure a clean break is the way to go, and another reader who's looking for more from his recently divorced girlfriend.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorDecember 6, 2016relationships, divorce, conflict, parenthood

Ask Yourself This Question to Better Meet Your Goals

An old theory helps shed light on what's getting in our own way.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorNovember 1, 2016self-help, goals, Psychology Today