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My relatives are shutting my longtime partner out of our inheritance because we’re not married

Dr. Andrea advises a reader who feels a piece of paper shouldn't matter when it comes to divvying up the family vacation home, and another reader whose unhelpful words to a friend have created a wedge.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorMay 16, 2017friendship, family, marriage, sexuality, conflict

5 Ways That Money Issues Can Ruin Relationships

Do you recognize yourself-- or your partner-- in these common money conflicts?

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorMay 10, 2017self-help, money, relationships, conflict, Psychology Today

I choose to live with dogs rather than people. Is there something wrong with my hermit ways?

Dr. Andrea helps a reader wondering whether the solitary life is the best life, and another reader who's upset her boyfriend has started making fun of her anxieties and obsessive thoughts.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorMay 9, 2017pets, relationships, anxiety, mental health

11 Surprising Things Good Friendships Do For You

Spend time boosting friendships and enjoy these well-being benefits.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorMay 5, 2017friendship, relationships, Psychology Today

My sister is in a manic phase again and she just quit her job. Is she bipolar?

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who wonders what's behind her sister's latest risky move, and another reader who may have found a future husband but isn't sure it's time to say so.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorMay 2, 2017mental health, family, relationships, marriage

How can I stop my wife’s spending sprees when she doesn’t seem to care?

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who's tired of watching his wife burn through money, and another reader who can't break free from the woman he cheated with.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorApril 25, 2017money, infidelity, relationships, marriage

7 Relationship Boosters You Can Use Today

These techniques will help you reconnect if you’re adrift.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorApril 20, 2017relationships, Psychology Today, conflict

Am I going to lose my Friday nights when we move in together?

A boyfriend worries about his social schedule conflicting with his girlfriend's and Dr. Andrea helps a reader who wants people to stop asking about a falling out with a mutual friend.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorApril 18, 2017friendship, relationships, conflict

5 Ways That Controlling Partners Disguise Their True Selves

These otherwise lovely traits can mask warning signs in new relationships.

I don’t like me when I’m angry

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who wants to fix his anger issues and another reader who is regretting getting a divorce.

Andrea BoniorApril 11, 2017

Should we tell our daughter that we can’t stand her rude, grumpy boyfriend?

Dr. Andrea helps a mother who fears her dating daughter is selling herself short, and another reader who feels betrayed by her husband and his financial secret.

Turning 30 sucks because I'm not who I thought I'd be

Dr. Andrea advises a reader whose life isn't measuring up to expectations, and another reader who wishes her husband would stop handing off all of the household duties.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorMarch 28, 2017emotional health, anxiety, money, gender, marriage, stress

My husband’s trendy new beard is disgusting … but is there anything I can do about it?

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who doesn't like kissing her man any more, and another reader who's grown tired of a friend's constant complaints about her money situation.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorMarch 21, 2017Baggage Check, marriage, grooming, attraction, friendship, money

Since we moved to the burbs, my boyfriend’s happy and I’m miserable. How do I tell him?

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who feels isolated from the rest of the world in her new home, and another reader whose live-in friend has definitely overstayed her welcome.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorMarch 14, 2017friendship, conflict, roommates, unemployment, relationships

My co-workers ruin our lunches with their husband bashing. Should I speak up?

Dr. Andrea advises a reader who has no taste for her friends' bitching, and another reader who's overwhelmed by the pressures caused by her husband's lengthy unemployment.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorMarch 7, 2017Baggage Check, unemployment, friendship, coworkers, marriage, conflict

I’m dreading retirement because my wife is no fun to be around anymore

Dr. Andrea helps a 64-year-old who doesn't like the person his wife has become, and another reader who's angered by a friend's supposedly helpful advice.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorFebruary 28, 2017marriage, retirement, friendship, conflict

8 Tips for Tackling Political Stress Now

Data says we're beyond frazzled; here's how to cope.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorFebruary 27, 2017Psychology Today, politics, stress, emotional health, therapy

I’m sick of my co-worker’s rude looks every time I bring my kids to the office

Dr. Andrea advises a parent who's looking for the right thing to say to a disapproving colleague, and another reader who objects to her fiance's choice of best man: his unreliable brother.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorFebruary 21, 2017parenthood, coworkers, workplace, weddings, engagement, relationships, conflict, family

I’m 36 and suffocating in my parents’ house, but how can I move out when they need me?

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who wants his own place but feels guilty, and another reader whose Mr. Right turns downright ugly when he drinks.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorFebruary 14, 2017relationships, family, conflict, roommates, alcohol, addiction

My irresponsible girlfriend lets stuff go around the house, and I just can’t let it go

Dr. Andrea helps a reader whose partner doesn't seem to want to change her careless ways, and another reader who's miffed that a brother is taking money from their parents for grad school.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorFebruary 7, 2017education, money, cohabitating, roommates, relationships, conflict, family