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We planned to stay together 'til our daughter graduated, but now my husband wants to move out early

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who doesn't think the time is right for a separation, and another reader who wishes she could talk to her boyfriend about his PTSD.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorSeptember 5, 2017divorce, marriage, parenting, relationships, PTSD

My stay-at-home wife wants to hire a cleaning person. Why can’t she just do the job?

Dr. Andrea advises a reader who doesn't want his family to outsource, and another reader whose sister is looking for support from the wrong person.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorAugust 29, 2017parenthood, relationships, marriage, divorce, siblings

How to deal when a friend's success leaves you in the dust

Most of us want to be happy for our friends' successes. But when they hit us where it hurts, weathering the disruption can be tough. Here's how to handle it.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorAugust 28, 2017friendship, relationships, self-help, jealousy

My new husband’s friend gave the meanest wedding speech and I still can’t let it go

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who says she can't believe a friend would tarnish her big day, and another reader who feels totally eclipsed by a sibling.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorAugust 22, 2017weddings, siblings, marriage, relationships, parenting

Now that we have a kid, I’m worried my husband isn’t cut out to be a parent

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who fears her husband is not enjoying his new role, and another reader who feels betrayed by her widower father's new relationship.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorAugust 15, 2017parenthood, relationships, marriage, depression, death, grief and loss, parenting

My friend talks on and on about astrology, superstitions and vision boards and I just cringe

Dr. Andrea advises a reader who is embarrassed by her friend's beliefs, and another reader who is looking for a way out of a controlling relationship.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorAugust 8, 2017friendship, relationships

I need my mother’s help with my baby, but she doesn’t seem interested in the kid

Dr. Andrea advises a reader who had hoped for more from her mom when it comes to grandparenting, and also tackles a situation where a couple can't get on the same page about step-parenting.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorAugust 3, 2017Baggage Check, parenting, motherhood

I want to get married. My longtime boyfriend doesn’t. So now what?

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who doesn't want to give up on taking the next step, and another reader who is tired of baby-sitting her drunk sister.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJuly 25, 2017Baggage Check, relationships, marriage, alcohol, engagement, proposal, siblings

My roommate tells everyone she's a vegetarian, but I know the truth and it's eating me up

Dr. Andrea helps a reader infuriated by a roommate's deception, and another reader whose relationship-exit plan got derailed by a bad car accident.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJuly 18, 2017Baggage Check, relationships, roommates, vegetarianism, breakups, traumas

I’m still stuck with my late husband’s car and it’s stressing me out

Dr. Andrea advises a widow waiting patiently for her stepson to take the car as he requested, and another reader who isn't sure what to do about the office complainer.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJuly 11, 2017family, death, workplace, relationships, money

Five Friendship Challenges for Children

Is your child struggling? Here's what to do about it.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorJune 30, 2017friendship, childhood, parenting, kids, relationships

Our neighbor always invites us over but his cooking makes us gag. How can we keep this from getting awkward?

Dr. Andrea advises a reader whose neighbor has left everyone with a bad taste in their mouth, and another reader who is dreading running into a former friend after a nasty blowup.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJune 27, 2017relationships, neighbors, friendship, conflict

My stepfather abandoned us, so I don’t want him at my mother’s memorial service

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who doesn't want a hard day to get any harder, and another reader who was dumped and isn't sure what to make of reason given.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJune 20, 2017death, family

I'm pregnant, but my partner is having second thoughts and I feel so alone

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who feels like her world is crumbling around her, and another reader who wants to shield her son from the misogynist in the family.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorJune 13, 2017family, relationships, pregnancy, parenthood, gender

Five Embarrassing Things Therapy Can Help With

If you suffer from these "weird" experiences, you are not alone.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorJune 7, 2017Psychology Today, therapy

I'm not into him, but he won't stop texting me. Other than ghosting, what can I do?

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who's having trouble conveying her lack of interest, and another reader who thinks the neighbors are up to something shady.

Andrea BoniorJune 6, 2017

My best friend wants to bring a date to my wedding, and it's ruining all my plans

Dr. Andrea helps a reader who's frustrated by her friend's request to bring her new boyfriend to the ceremony, and another reader who's tired of her father's insults about overweight people.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorMay 30, 2017relationships, friendship, weddings, family, weight

18 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

Some of them aren't fun to think about, but they're crucial to know.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorMay 24, 2017weddings, relationships, marriage, engagement

I’m fired up for political protests but my husband is too lazy to join in. Is this it for us?

Dr. Andrea advises a reader who is considering marching right out the door, and another reader who wishes her male friends at school would hang out with her after school too.

Baggage CheckAndrea BoniorMay 23, 2017politics, gender, marriage, relationships

4 Principles Keeping You Together, For Better or For Worse

These psychology principles can tell us some surprising things about who we choose and why we stay.

Psychology TodayAndrea BoniorMay 21, 2017relationships, conflict, emotional health, self-help